neuro-linguistic programming

Self-esteem & Emotional Intelligence

The new, revolutionary approach to developing high self-esteem and understanding and managing your emotions

Developing Emotional Intelligence - 1 day workhop

Sydney, Australia

with Keith Gilbert (Grad.Cert.NLP)

Emotional Intelligence is the key to improving the ways you relate to your family, friends, business and work associates and other significant people in your life.

Emotional Intelligence is also an important part of physical health and wellbeing, and could play a vital role in increasing longevity.

Emotional Intelligence can enhance learning, creativity and productivity.

And yes, you can develop Emotional Intelligence… by changing old emotional habits.

Developing Emotional Intelligence – in this 1 day workshop you will learn how to;

- respond to the messages in emotions; what they are telling you about a situation or something you are thinking about

- choose the emotions you want appropriate to situations

- prepare for future situations with resourceful states of mind/emotions - examples include; public speaking, work, relating to children and teenagers, sports, learning contexts, and crucial decision making in business and personal matters

Developing Emotional Intelligence can help with the following;

Laziness
Disinterest in learning
Shyness
Hopelessness
Depression
Fear
Anxiety
Guilt
Loneliness
Eating disorders – obesity, bulimia, anorexia…
Problems with body image
Bullying – being bullied
Staying in less than satisfying or even abusive relationships

Anger
Hostility and violence
Alcohol and drug dependence

Emotions, or states of mind, are behind every decision we have ever made and will make.  To make effective decisions ideally we want to be in the right state of mind.

Emotions, or states of mind, determine how we relate to others.  To encourage the relationships we want, we want to be in the right state of mind.

Emotions, or states of mind, determine how we perform in any situation.   To perform well we want to be in the right state of mind.

It is easy to see that learning how to develop emotional intelligence will be the most important thing you will ever do.

If you no longer want to be at the mercy of your emotions…

If you want to have more control over your emotions…

… then you want to Develop Emotional Intelligence.

For workshop dates and venue, and to book your place in the workshop contact Keith at klgilbert@optusnet.com.au

Keith Gilbert
NLP Consulting

Author - "neuro-linguistic programming: Self-esteem & Emotional Intelligence"

Self-esteem

One of the biggest problems facing our youth today is low self-esteem.   We all know the indicators of low self-esteem; obesity and eating disorders, anger, depression, ow motivation, hopelessness, alcohol dependence, drug addiction, violence, crime, attempts at suicide… and the list goes on.   A solution is needed of the utmost urgency to protect our children from a life of despair.

A solution does exist in the technology of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.   My goal is to inform as many people as possible about the origins of low self-esteem and how we can encourage young people to develop high self-esteem and emotional intelligence with Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

Emotional Intelligence is the key to a healthier, happier and friendlier world. The more people learn how to apply the technology of Neuro-Linguistic Programming the sooner we will realise this dream.

You can purchase the paperback version of my book ‘neuro-linguistic programming: Self-esteem & Emotional Intelligence’ or an ebook version which you can download.   Both are available from Lulu at,

http://www.lulu.com/content/paperback-book/neuro-linguistic-programming-self-esteem/6461230

You can also help by forwarding this message to everyone you know.

Thank you for helping,

Keith Gilbert (Grad.Cert.NLP)

Excerpt from 'neuro-linguistic programming: Self-esteem & Emotional Intelligence'

The Origins of Low Self-esteem

We can only give what we have.   The origins of low self-esteem are to be found in the way adults communicate with young people.   From the time a baby is born and then throughout her life she is told;

1.   How she should behave.

2.   Who she should be.

3.   What she should think.

From the very beginning this little person is told, in no uncertain terms, that her freedom to choose, in many situations, is secondary to doing what is expected of her.   In her attempts to live up to people’s expectations of her she learns to develop beliefs, habitual ways of thinking, about herself and what she can do.   In developing beliefs she begins to disassociate from her ability to explore, experiment and learn.

Low self-esteem begins with expectations.

Excerpt from 'neuro-linguistic programming: Self-esteem & Emotional Intelligence'

Return to the Origin

When we learn to believe something we are then capable of believing anything .   When we learn to be good we make it possible to learn to be bad… and then we have no autonomy, no real freedom of Choice.  I am proposing in this book that if we are to encourage high self-esteem in others then what is required is that we develop it within ourselves first.   The question, then, is how do we know if we have low self-esteem?  On page 16 I give some examples of behaviours that are indicative of low self-esteem.   There is another way to determine if you have low self-esteem.   I proposed that the origin of low self-esteem is expectations.

Escaping limbo

If you have any expectations of others; children, teenagers, adults then you have low self-esteem.   Expectations like;

I want you to be polite.

I want you to share.

I want you to be well behaved.

I want you to be a good person.

I want you to put others first.

I want you to do well at school.

I want you to go to university.

I want you to do what I think is best for you.

I want you to have high self-esteem.

I want you to believe in yourself.

I want you to be successful.

Each of these impositions exposes the limitations, the disassociations within our own thinking.   We can only give what we have.   When we expect others to limit themselves to what we expect of them we are communicating that they should not develop their own discernment, their own freedom of Choice.   Low self-esteem encourages low self-esteem.   How could it be otherwise?

You can purchase your copy of 'neuro-linguistic programing: Self-esteem' at,

http://www.lulu.com/content/paperback-book/neuro-linguistic-programming-self-esteem/6461230

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